
This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Maggie Zheng, a 26-year-old from Arizona who works for a tech startup. It’s been edited for length and clarity.
There’s a saying about dating that definitely applies to men in tech: ‘The odds are good, but the goods are odd.’
While it’s difficult and unfair to generalize an entire group of people, my experience dating tech bros certainly matches the phrase.
Until meeting my fiancé two years ago, I dated several folks in tech and noticed similar patterns and eccentricities among them. Many people in tech seem to approach relationships like a work project, not a partnership. They can also become so goal-oriented that they fail to recognize the emotions of their significant other.
However,…